When you ask yourself this question, “what drives me?” you can find a bunch of answers? getting this or that or not getting into this situation which is detrimental or that situation that doesn’t make you feel so convenient. If you want to do an exercise, take a sheet of paper and write this question: what drives me? And then write your answers underneath, with bullet points. Keep each point short and focused. Think well; you can write as many as you like. Go on start; I’ll stick around till you’re done. Done? — Great!
I realized that the most common motivations people have stem either out of fear or love. Say you’re working a 9 to 5 because you need money, you need money for a, b, c, d; pay rent, put food on the table for your family, your kids’ tuition, and so on. I believe love and fear cannot coexist because they’re canceling each other. So, it may appear that they’re threaded together in a motive like: I wanna pay my kid’s tuition at a good school because I love them. Right, but sacrificing yourself and doing something that doesn’t make any sense won’t allow you to be a good father for your kid.
He might be needing more a good father rather than a tuition paid at a good school. And if you’re a 20yo and work your ass off to buy yourself that Benz or paying yourself rent in a nicer district, that’s for status, and status is important for you because you may be afraid of being perceived by other as less than what you are. Or maybe it’s for yourself, and you do it for the love you have for your own self. Look, I think it will never hurt anyone to go a step further and find the underlying reasons of why you invest your time in this or that thing.
Life is short, and knowing why you choose to put it into this or that thing helps you keep your motivation consistent and wins you a better focus. Procrastination is nothing but a misaligned motivation.